Departing from self-love, growing in charity

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The gospel reading today (4th Sunday of Lent) is about the parable of the prodigal son. Our chaplain preached a homily about how we should move away from self-love, towards charity.

The younger son who squandered everything did not return to his father’s because he was contrite, but because he was hungry and lusting after food. It is motivated by self-love.

The older son was upset at his father sacrificing the biggest calf for his brother and was fuelled with anger and envy. It is not justified by righteousness, but self-love.


We do not cater enough time to pray to begin with. Yet when we pray, we ramble on about our troubles absorbed in self-love.

What we need to do is to remove self-love and instead, work towards charity.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church defines “charity” as “the theological virtue by which we love God above all things for His own sake, and our neighbor as ourselves for the love of God“.


This message hit home as I have been struggling with being sacrificial when my meets are unmet. During the Liturgy of the Eucharist, I begged God for the grace and strength to be charitable in my vocation. During adoration (post-mass), I was blessed with God’s healing touch/ tears as I beseeched God to fill me up as I am running on empty. And He did.

This is why I love mass. Why I love being Catholic. Because the only person who can restore my wearied soul is God. He is the potter, I am the clay. He restores and makes all things new.

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